TITLE: Head of the House
TEXT: Eph. 5:21-33
PROPOSITION: Many marriages are in trouble because of confusion over headship and submission.
1. Salesman at door. Asks, "Is the head of the house at home?" -- Man calls his wife.
2. What is headship all about?
3. Dr. Gayle Napier - DLU - 65% of church marriages are dysfunctional.
4. We used to be 20 years behind world, now 3 seconds.
I. Transactional - Analysis Model
We have video tapes of past experiences.
A. Parent Prejudicial, Critical
Says "You will"
B. Adult Rational, Objective
Says "I think"
C. Child Natural impulses
Says "I feel"
II. Many Combinations when you put a couple together.
III. Common view: Man (parent) head = power and control
Woman (child) submit = obey the power and control
IV. 10 to 20 years later --
A. The relationship declines AND --
B. She leaves home OR:
C. She stays and rebels
NOTE: This is "emotional incest." He is parent with power and control. She is child who must obey. Could be reversed. She parent (mother) with power and control and he is the child.
A. Is not: Power and control. (Parent to Child)
B. Headship and Submission are Adult to Adult.
C. Love, emotion, think, intellect, decision
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